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Self-Esteem
Confidence is what we tell others. Self-esteem is what you whisper to yourself.
Many of us try everything, relationships, promotions, even bubble baths, searching for happiness, only to realise the missing piece is knowing our own worth. We often dream about the change, but we don’t go much further than that. Playing small, outstaying relationships, chasing people’s approval, wondering if people like you, not taking risks, taking “You’re so selfless, you never think of yourself!” as a compliment all feel ordinary. If this rings a bell, then you might be having a low self esteem.
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Self-esteem is the lens through which you see yourself, and it quietly teaches how the world around you sees you, too. It keeps you stuck in comfort zones where you feel safe, but unhappy, second-guessing yourself and letting others define your value.
Self-esteem is often formed from the way you are treated by your parents, and from their own self-esteem, consistently inconsistent people around you, feeling you ‘failed’ one too many times and not having a plan of what to do next or what you want.
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Neglecting self-care can quietly become a habit and with it, low self-esteem takes root. It shows up as:
Putting everyone else first
Settling for failure
Losing interest in your well-being
Giving up on your dreams
Being ‘content’ with staying still in life
Being suspicious, closed and cold
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If left unchecked, these patterns can lead to anxiety, stress, lack of motivation, and procrastination. Over time, they can spiral into depression, phobias and even the belief that you deserve mistreatment. It is important to understand what you need to address, and the tools you can use to move forward and be the best possible version of yourself .
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When low self-esteem becomes part of your daily routine, it can start to feel like your default setting. And gratitude journals, fun plans, and exercise, are not enough for your own self-acceptance.
That’s where therapy with me comes in. In a safe, supportive space, we’ll begin to untangle the beliefs, habits, and emotional loops that have quietly drained you and dimmed your sense of self. Using evidence-based approaches, we’ll identify small but powerful changes, tiny shifts that create beautiful ripple effects across your life.
Our work will center on the most important relationship you have: the one with yourself. Together, we’ll focus on learning how to accept, respect, and understand who you are at your core. We’ll explore how to:
Set healthy boundaries
Build meaningful, supportive relationships
Trust your instincts and decisions again
Put yourself first, without guilt
Feel at home in your own skin
Working on your self esteem is a bumpy road with many trips and falls along the way. But that’s how real change happens. And I’ll be there with you, each step of the way.
Let’s reconnect with the version of you that’s been quietly waiting to be heard.